I saw the signs and it opened up my eyes

As I previously mentioned in this post I have signed up to online dating. I've so far met up two different guys and been on three dates. The first guy was nice, really dead on but neither of us made any effort to arrange a second date so it just fizzled out. I think we both knew there was no va va voom between us.

Chemistry between two people is harder to understand than the periodic table

After the date I stopped going on the dating website just carried on with my life. But after a few weeks I was sucked back in again and ended up chatting to this one guy. After a while we arranged to meet up. This time I wanted to be able to make a swift exit just in case so suggested we went for ice cream instead of a drink so I could drive. It actually turned out to be a nice little date. We had coke floats and then went for a drive. Conversation was easy and he seemed nice enough.
A week later we decided to go for a drink and this time something changed. He was a little intense talking about his cousins wedding in September we should go to. He used the word gay in a derogatory way- which really peeves me and I had a realisation that he was really similar to my ex. Now don't get me wrong my ex is decent fella but we broke up for a reason. I realised that I would always be working to change him and the little annoying aspects of his personality were already beginning to bug me. On a second date I should still have my rose tainted glasses on and be blind to his imperfections.

I like you but I wanna change everything about you

I thought once I decided to get back in the dating world it would be easy. I would meet a guy, we'd have instant chemistry and I'd think about him all the time when I'm not with and when I am with him he'd be perfect. Really is that too much to ask?!?

So like a boomerang I went back to the dating site. Yet again got chatting to a guy and we arranged a date. In fact we were meant to go out last night but yesterday he texted me to say he couldn't make it and could we rearrange it until next week. I played it cool and said 'Of course no problem,' but I was kinda annoyed. I was tempted to just leave it.  This was beginning to become too much hard work. I was sick of constantly getting my hopes up, just to actually meet the person and have them dashed. Finding a guy shouldn't be this much hard work.

So in my depressed state I ordered big, greasy takeway and bought some chocolate. Which brings me on to the meaning of this blog post title. I'm not sure if everywhere has this but Coke has started doing these personalised bottles. They say things like 'Share a Coke with Rebecca,' or 'Share a Coke with Andrew'

You have an Aoife but no Shona, get it sorted Coke!

Anyway with my take away I ordered a bottle of coke and the name on it was the name of the guy I was meant to meet and close to giving up on. Coincidence? Probably, but it's not like his name is Andrew or Chris. It quite an Irish name with the Irish spelling.

So the question is do you believe in signs? I guess it's the eternal optimist in me but I have decided I do. I'm going to meet this guy next week. But even if it doesn't work out I'm going to delete my profile on the dating website. It's strangely addictive and it quite draining having to make conversation over and over. I guess if this date is a bust I'll just have to go back to being contently single and just wait for the right guy to stumble into my life. 

Live in hope my friends

S x

Gone fishin'

As I mentioned in my previous post I have signed up to an online dating site to see what's out there. I have been single now for about two years. After I broke up with my boyfriend, who I was with since I was 17, I decided to just be single for a while and focus on my getting my degree finished. I found it too hard to juggle university, placements, exams and work on top of having a boyfriend. It began to feel like I was forcing myself to spend time with my ex when there were other things I'd rather be doing.

So single I have been. It's been good, I feel I've reconnected with friends, had some amazing nights out and have focused on myself for a while. But now that I am working full time and everything else in my life is falling into place I've noticed a boyfriend shaped hole. As I work in a very predominately female profession and I never meet anyone on nights out as I'm too busy enjoying myself with my friends, online dating seemed like an easy way to meet people.

OK future husband, I'm ready for you

Let me just say this, online dating is quite possibly the most tedious thing in the world. I feel like I am having the same conversation all the time

'Hi, how are you?'

'I'm good, you?'

'Not too bad, so where about in Belfast are you from?'

'Where do you work?'

'Any plans for the weekend?'

Do you still live with your parents?'

'What TV shows do you like?'

Blah, blah, blah. There are times I actually want to bang my head off the wall. This all seems like an awful lot of hard work for a date. I did meet up with one guy from it, which I shall share in another post, but I don't know if it's worth the hassle. Maybe I should stick with trying to meet someone the normal way. Getting drunk at a party and chatting to strangers.

Sorry if this post is kinda weird I just don't really know what to say about online dating. At moment it's not really floating my boat.

Toodles

Sx